Teaching your teen to drive marks a significant milestone in their lives. As a parent, it is crucial to balance giving them newfound freedom with ensuring their safety. This guide offers valuable tips and strategies to help your teen become a confident, responsible, and well-prepared driver for the road ahead.

Lead by Example

As your teenager’s driving instructor, you must be a responsible driver and lead by example even when you’re not conducting a lesson. Model positive behaviors and follow all traffic laws whenever you are behind the wheel, especially when your teen is with you. Teenagers are more likely to mirror good habits when they see their parents doing so. By setting a good example, you help teens develop safe driving habits that will last a lifetime.

Create Learning Opportunities

Opportunities to instruct your teen on traffic laws and driving best practices constantly arise when you’re on the lookout for them. Focus on basic concepts earlier in their training and work up to more complex rules that may occasionally be relevant.

If your teen makes a simple mistake behind the wheel, gently redirect them and teach them what they could have done differently without shaming or humiliating them. Driving practice can also teach teens unique life lessons like responsible decision-making, so use these opportunities to instill good values and behaviors.

Encourage Open Dialogue

As learning opportunities arise, ensure your teen feels comfortable discussing their driving experiences with you. Listen to their concerns and provide constructive feedback. By maintaining an open dialogue, you can address any issues early on and ensure they understand the importance of responsible driving.

Set Boundaries and Consequences

It’s crucial to set clear rules and expectations for your teen driver. Discuss what is expected of them and the specific boundaries they must adhere to, such as curfews or passenger limits. Consider drafting a pledge between you and your teenager that states they will follow your rules until they are ready to gain more responsibility.

Set natural consequences in the event your teen breaks the pledge, such as taking their keys when they are caught committing risky behavior. Consistent enforcement helps them understand that driving is a privilege that comes with responsibilities.

Monitor Their Behavior

To determine if you can trust your teenager to drive on their own, monitor their driving habits without being overly intrusive. The simplest way to accomplish this is to be with them in the car as they drive and take note of their behaviors. When you cannot be present, use technology like GPS tracking or apps that monitor driving behavior to ensure they follow traffic rules and any boundaries you’ve set.

Frame monitoring tools as safety protocols for their protection, not as a 24/7 surveillance device. Regularly check in with them to discuss their driving experiences and any challenges they may be facing.

Warn Them of Risky Driving

Teens are more likely to engage in reckless driving and are more at risk for fatal car accidents than any other age group. Teach your teenager the dangers and consequences of severe driving offenses, such as property damage, jail time, and increased insurance rates. Reinforce the importance of making safe driving choices whenever they get behind the wheel.

Balancing freedom and responsibility for teen drivers requires a mix of guidance, communication, and supervision. Following these steps can help your teen become a confident and responsible driver.

I Forgive You for Your Diaper is a hilarious and relatable book for new parents that captures the chaotic but joyous experience of parenting and the frequent task of changing diapers. With cute illustrations and witty humor, this new book navigates the messy world of diaper changes with grace and laughter. We’ve all been there and most of us have survived!

A great baby shower, christening or new parent Christmas gift idea!

(Amazon $11.99 paperback)

An interview with I Forgive You For Your Diaper author, A. Parent.

What’s your best advice about being a parent?

It’s the greatest, hardest, longest job you’ll ever have.  Unlike most jobs, the hours are unusual and sometimes the people you think you are the boss of are in fact, the boss of you, but the pay is incredible.  You get back joy, love, pride and more – and all with no tax taken off!

How many kids do you have?

I have two amazing daughters.  Sisters to each other, best friends (sometimes rivals), but also playmates for each other and for me (there are surprisingly few people my age who will play hide and go seek with me.)

How did you come up with the idea for the book?

It was middle of the night, middle of yet another diaper change, and I just decided that even in a moment like this, tired and dirty, there has to be humor in this.  There always is.  So, after I got my little girl back to sleep, I stayed up for a little bit, thinking. Luckily, (unluckily?) there were a lot more moments like that to think some more.  Finally, I put all those thoughts together in this cute, funny book. Do I thank my daughter’s digestion for helping?

Did you do the drawings?

No! I can barely draw a bath. I found a wonderful artist named Ekaterina Mironava who is a mother herself and can relate.  I loved the soft “watercolor” feel of her work, plus she has a great sense of humor and was really able to capture the fun of each drawing while also showing the love a parent has for their child, even at moments where we don’t feel very loving.

Which drawing is your favorite?

Of course, I love them all but if I were to pick one, it would be the back cover.  It’s made to look like the poster for a scary movie called “Changing Time” with the slogan “Coming Soon to a Baby Near You!”.  Hopefully parents get a laugh about the “surprise” of diaper changes – you know they are coming, but you never know when.

Anything you want to tell us about that ending?

Ha!  No, I’ll leave that for the readers.  I will say it’s one of the things people seem to love the most about the book and that I hear about the most.  Hopefully, it leaves the reader with a laugh and a smile, thinking about the circle of life and relationships between parents and their children.

‘A Parent’ isn’t your real name – why write this under a pseudonym?

You’re right, it isn’t.  The first time I looked at the book and thought “Ok, I’m proud of this, I’m done” my actual name was going to be on the cover.  But as I started putting the book together and getting positive reactions from all sorts of parents – really every type and situation – I realized that changing diapers is a universal experience every parent and any parent goes through. That’s when I thought of using “A Parent” as a pseudonym.  I hope it reflects that idea that the struggle of diapers is something that happens to all of us.

The book just came out.  How is it doing?

Really well! Not just in sales but what I’ve found really satisfying is the reviews.  People have found the book funny and charming and that it gives them a smile, sometimes when they most need it.  I love seeing it sell, but feedback like that is what’s really rewarding.

Any plans to do another book?

Actually, the reaction I’ve seen to this has made me think about it.  Maybe something in the same vein, having fun with other aspects of parenting, maybe not.  The only thing I know for sure is I won’t be writing a book about astrophysics, engineering or anything involving math.  I respect math, I wish math well, but I need to say, I don’t like math.

Where can people get the book?

I love bookstores. Absolutely love them.  That said, sadly, these days they seem few and far between. If you have a bookstore you love, hopefully they sell the book there, but I know they may not.   So, recognizing that, the book is always available on Amazon or any of the other online places where we can all buy books.

What readers are saying:

“Everything about this book was hilarious and will hands down be my new go-to book for baby showers!”

“I have to say this book really made me chuckle and boy could I relate … I was taken back to the days of diaper change and remembered some of the eye watering diapers.”

“We’ve all been there (I’m there 5 times a day!). Any new parent would love this!”

Listed on our must-read suggestions of parenting books.

Welcoming an au pair into your home is an exciting step. They’ll be a new addition to your family, offering support and helping manage the busy routines of your household. But, like with any new arrangement, the first month can be a learning curve for everyone. There will be moments of adjustment, communication, and even some awkwardness.

However, it’s all part of the process of building a comfortable, trusting relationship.

Firstly, for those who have not heard of the term, what is an au pair? An au pair is a young person, typically from another country, who lives with a host family to provide childcare in exchange for room, board, and cultural exchange.

So, what should you expect in that first month with your au pair?

1. Setting the Tone with Clear Expectations

Once you’ve chosen an au pair from an agency, the first few weeks are crucial for establishing how things will work. Your au pair needs to understand what their duties are, and you’ll want to ensure that everyone is on the same page. Whether it’s managing school pick-ups, meal times, or bedtime routines, clear communication is your best friend.

Sit down with your au pair and go through their daily schedule, including your family’s values and habits. While it may feel like over-explaining, remember that they’re entering a new home and culture—details matter.

2. Cultural Exchange: Embracing Differences

An au pair isn’t just a babysitter—they’re part of a cultural exchange program. This means you’re both going to experience differences in habits, routines, and expectations. Maybe they’re from a country where meals are served at different times, or they follow certain traditions that you’re unfamiliar with. These cultural nuances can feel exciting but also unfamiliar.

Be patient. The first month is all about learning each other’s rhythms. Why not have a conversation about how things are done in your respective cultures? Not only will this help you understand each other better, but it’ll also foster a deeper connection. Encourage your au pair to share their culture with your children as well—this can be a fantastic learning experience for everyone.

3. Balancing Work and Personal Time

One of the trickiest areas to navigate is balancing the professional and personal relationship with your au pair. They’re not just an employee—they’re living in your home, sharing meals, and possibly attending family events. It’s a unique situation, and figuring out the boundaries is key.

While it’s important that they feel included and welcomed, it’s equally essential to respect their downtime. Your au pair has a lot of responsibilities is entitled to time off. Having clear boundaries between work hours and personal time will prevent any awkwardness. Encourage them to explore the area during their time off or connect with other au pairs.

At the same time, make sure they feel like part of the family during meals or other activities. This balance of work and personal connection can take time to get right, but that’s entirely normal in the first month.

4. Building a Relationship with the Kids

For your children, a new person living in the house might feel a bit strange at first. Some kids warm up quickly, while others might need a little time. Your au pair will be spending a significant amount of time with them, so this bond is crucial to everyone’s happiness.

Encourage your au pair to spend quality time with the kids in low-pressure settings. Whether it’s playing games, reading books, or simply hanging out, these early interactions will lay the foundation for a great relationship. You’ll likely see your children start to rely on and enjoy the au pair’s company as they get more comfortable.

But keep in mind, it’s not unusual for children to test boundaries, especially with someone new. Support your au pair by backing up their authority when necessary. This will help the children understand that the au pair is an adult who can guide them, and it will make things easier for your au pair, too.

5. Small Adjustments and Growing Pains

Let’s be honest—no matter how prepared you are, there will be bumps along the way. Maybe your au pair struggles with certain household tasks or misinterprets your expectations. This is normal. Remember, they are adjusting to a new culture, language, and family dynamic all at once. Mistakes will happen.

The key is to keep communication open. If something isn’t working, address it in a constructive manner. Similarly, encourage your au pair to voice any concerns they might have. This mutual exchange helps iron out any wrinkles early on, making things smoother in the long run.

Patience is everything. By the end of the first month, both you and your au pair will have learned a lot, and things will naturally start to feel more comfortable.

6. Getting into the Groove

By the end of the first month, the initial awkwardness should start to fade. You’ll have a better understanding of each other’s routines, and hopefully, your au pair will begin to feel like part of the family. At this point, their role should be clear, and everyone should have a good sense of how things operate on a day-to-day basis.

It’s also a good time to check in with your au pair. Ask them how they’re feeling about their role, what’s working, and if there’s anything that can be improved. This is a great opportunity to make any small tweaks before the routine becomes too set.

Final Thoughts

The first month with an au pair is a time of learning, growth, and adjustment—for everyone. While it might take a little time to find your rhythm, by focusing on open communication, respect, and understanding, you’ll set the foundation for a successful experience. As both you and your au pair settle into this new dynamic, the initial uncertainty will give way to a more natural and comfortable routine.

Don’t worry if things aren’t perfect right away. It’s all part of the process. Embrace the journey, and soon enough, your au pair will feel like an indispensable part of your family.

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Ensuring that your kid’s gaming time doesn’t eat into their studying time can be particularly tricky. This is especially so in our modern world, in which games can be played on virtually every device, making it harder to set clear boundaries between fun and focus.

While educational math games are ideal for the classroom, your child will likely still want to spend a little time on Minecraft. There are some key ways you can ensure that your kid’s gaming can be a part of a healthy, productive relationship with the world around them, so let’s talk about that.

Create a positive feedback loop

A great way to ensure that your child obsessively thinks about gaming is to attempt to outright ban it in your home. Instead, consider what level of gaming you would think is healthy and appropriate, and create a positive feedback loop where they can engage to that degree.

For example, you might consider two hours with a ten-minute break in the middle to be a healthy approach to gaming. Instead of punishing your child when they don’t conform to that rule, celebrate them when they do. Perhaps offer them their favorite snack during that break time.

Be engaged with your child’s games

A child spending their time sealed off from the world around them is one that can develop quite an unhealthy relationship with both games in general, and the people in their life. A great way to bridge this gap is to become interested and engaged in the games your child is playing.

While this might be a little tricky if you’re not a gamer yourself, you can follow some simple rules to engage well. For instance, ask an open-ended question about a character in the game, and allow your child to talk as much as they want. You could also sit with your child while they game, and point out some tips and tricks.

Engaging with their hobby will help them to understand that you want to be a part of their life. With time and patience, the two of you can build up a relationship over this complex part of our world.

Create a balanced rule system

While a hard and fast rule system may have worked in the past, it may not be ideal in your home. Over time, kids will become more aware of the relative fairness in the world around them. Therefore, insisting on an arbitrary gaming time limit while not stopping anything yourself might seem frustrating to them.

Instead, consider creating and visibly sharing a rule where both you and your child have to stop doing something. Your child has to stop gaming for a little while, and you, perhaps, have to put your phone down. During this time, perhaps you could reconnect a little, make dinner, or do a fun activity together. Since you’re both giving something up for a time, the rule can be more equitable and approachable to a child.

While gaming can be a great source of learning and development, it’s not something that people typically want their kids to do all the time. With a little time, and the tips outlined above, you can manage your child’s relationship to gaming effectively to create a fair and productive household.

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