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Imagine a scenario where you dine together with your teenager. The food is hot, the place is silent, and everything seems peaceful. While dining, you chitchat with them about “how their day was,” which they always answer as “okay” or “perfect”. You ask if there is anything that is not right, but get a reply like “nothing.” Without further ado, the conversation comes to an end.

You shake it off and move on. However, later you see them laughing at a meme on their phone or breaking into laughter at something on TV, and you feel like telling yourself, “Look at that, they are just fine. I was just imagining things.” Therefore, you let it slide.

That was not it, though. A smile is not always a confirmation that everything is alright. Almost all teenagers have become adept at the art of pretending like everything is perfect on the outside, whereas, in reality, they might be carrying a heavy mental burden. Instead of sharing their pain with you, they would rather take care of it on their own.

This is not an isolated affair. This happens in millions of homes every single day. It is not because your teenager does not love you or you are a bad parent. This is because there is something in their mind that tells them that it is best to be quiet rather than say something.

Though actually, what is the real issue here? Why do many teenagers prefer the option of keeping their own mental health struggles to themselves, rather than just going to the next room and talking to the person (aka their ‘parents’) they are most comfortable with? Let’s understand it here.

It is not about the ‘stigma’ associated with mental health

For a long time, it has been thought that youths kept quiet about it because they were embarrassed about their mental health issues or feared being “crazy” or “weak” and excluded by others. But the truth is not as terrible as it sounds.

The current teenage generation has always talked about the topic of mental health openly. It is in their schools, their social media sites, and the programs they watch. Shame is still a factor for some, yes, but it’s not the main reason young people become silent.

The exact causes are not so flashy but more personal, and yes, they are somewhat heartbreaking.

• They do not think you will understand:

A study by the American Psychiatric Association Publishing involving 1,428 teenagers aged 13-17 across the United States revealed that the major factor in why they avoid sharing their mental health struggles is that they believe their parents ‘will not get what they are going through’.

As a parent, how about if you were in their shoes? You are already finding it difficult to express your feelings in a better way. You are already doubting if you are truly going through it. Then you picture yourself saying it, and instantly, you come to the conclusion that they do not understand. For this reason, you close the door to conversation even without opening it.

This is not a perpetrator’s or a parent’s attack. This is just the way teenagers are at this moment in their lives. They feel like their world is different, their problems are different, and the gap between their experience and yours feels too wide to cross.

• They are afraid you will try to fix it instead of just listening:

49% of teenagers in the same study reported that they hide mental health struggles from parents because they know they will go directly to problem-solving mode. They will advise, suggest, or convey something like “you need to do as I say.”

Keep in mind that there is a big difference between being listened to and being helped. When the parent immediately moves on to fixing, the teenager feels like their emotions are a burden to be solved rather than a feeling to be understood. Thus, next time, a teenager prefers to keep it to themselves.

• They are uncomfortable with the feelings themselves:

Sometimes, they do not even mind admitting ‘they are struggling’. Sometimes, they avoid you because they do not feel well with what is actually going on in their own heads or have no words for it. Plus, they do not know how to tell what they feel. Everything is too hard and confusing for them to put together into a sentence.

About 42% of the teenagers in the same study admitted this statement. This is by no means a sign of weakness. But they have not yet gained the skills of understanding the language of pain. They use the technique of burying or warping, which means they push issues aside until they are over and the issues resolve themselves. They do not shun you, but they are shunning the emotion.

• They do not want to be a burden:

The hardest part for many parents is the fact that children might keep silent because they care for them and want to protect them. They see you working hard, stressed, and carrying everything you already have. It’s like, ‘I can’t add my feelings to this’. Almost half of those teenagers in the study admitted that the possibility of burdening their parents makes them anxious. In the case of LGBTQ+ teens, this number was even higher, as revealed by many studies.

Do not think that they are pushing you away. They are trying to shield you. That is because they love you, delivered through a seemingly silent response.

• They worry the conversation will go wrong:

The teenager has already seen the whole scenario played out in their head a hundred times before even the first words have come out. Quite often the scenario that plays out will have a bad ending.

• What if you panic and overreact?
• What if you tell someone else?
• What if you bring it up in almost every argument from now on?
• What if you make it worse?

These are their true fears, although they appear to be far-fetched to you. Still, many teenagers from this study revealed they kept silent for fear that parents would make the situation worse or act in a way that is out of control.

Some teenagers face even bigger walls:

Not every teenager sees their obstacles and struggles the same way. Research by the Journal of Springer Nature Link has shown that Hispanic and Black teenagers, as well as those of LGBTQ+ status, deal with a lot more barriers than others.

• For Hispanic teens, not wanting to bring shame or despair to the family is a contributing factor.

• Black teens point out that they have a deep distrust, thinking that either their sorrows will be seen as a joke or as less serious.

• LGBTQ+ teens feel too much shame for not being “normal,” which is what makes the fear even higher for them.

These are not just minor issues but different layers of the life experience that make the already important act of asking for help seem nearly impossible. These children are not hard to reach. However, they do need more safety, more trust, and more genuine understanding before they can open up.

Parents are still the first choice, but the gap is there:

Despite all the things mentioned above, the study also demonstrated that 87% of those surveyed teenagers said they would turn to their parents first if they were dealing with sadness or depression. Parents are the ones who come before friends, before school counselors, and before mental health professionals.

This is proof that the bond is still strong. Love is still there. The door is just not yet open. It’s just reached a stuck point now. This is not due to distance or disrespect. It’s usually fear of not being heard, and very hard conversations keep them silent.

This is a gap that is meant to be bridged and can be.

So where does a psychiatrist come in?

At times, a teenager’s sadness or unease is not just ordinary tension. Sometimes the issues they have are real, clinical, and deeply rooted concerns that go beyond what a parent, a friend, or any school counselor might be skilled at helping. That is no one’s fault. It’s the way mental pressure looks.

A psychiatrist is not some person who sets up in their freezing office and sticks labels on your teen. A board-certified psychiatrist is a medical doctor who has attained the highest level of education and training in the mental health field. They understand what goes on inside a young person’s struggling mind that is often skipped by parents (please don’t take it offensively; as a dentist is required for tooth care, same as a psychiatrist is there for mental health care help). They provide an environment where the teenager knows that they cannot be a say on someone, or be misunderstood, or have their conversation against them in the future. It is the teenagers’ own place.

Furthermore, a psychiatrist can help teenagers do something that many of them expressed in the study that they require the most: find the language. Find the words for what they are feeling and learn how to talk about hard emotions.

Note that professional psychiatric care is not the last option but rather the means that brings teenagers back and reconnects them with the ones they love. Nowadays, teenagers can easily receive mental health care, as they find help just one screen away from them. For example, GABA Telepsychiatry allows parents and children to reach out for expert psychiatric assistance 24/7 from a board-certified child psychiatrist online. This also allows them to get the expert help they need at every stage of their development, whenever and wherever they need it.

What can actually help right now?

If you are a parent reading this, know that you don’t have to have a perfect script. A few slight changes can do the work perfectly.

• Ask without expecting the answer. Let them know that the door is open without pressuring them.

• Listen to understand rather than to reply. Save the advice for the moment when they will ask for it.

• Make feelings a part of everyday talk. Don’t save it till the crisis moment.

If the difficulties seem to be more than they can handle, involve a professional without it seeming like a punishment or a failure on their part.

Your child is not hiding away from you because they do not need you. They are keeping a distance because they are afraid, feel uneasy, and are not sure that the conversation that will be initiated will end well. The positive part is that this feeling is not permanent. It can be changed. It is a mission worth combining.

The silence is not the end of the story. It is only the point of talking about the story as it is right now.

Author Bio:

Mike is a medical writer. He is passionate about mental health, especially for children, teens, and families facing emotional and behavioral challenges. To learn more, visit https://gabapsychiatrist.com/. 

References:

• Modi K, Mullen MG, Tolode K, Erickson-Schroth L, Hurley K, MacPhee J. Why Teens Don’t Talk: Understanding the Role of Stigma Within Barriers to Help Seeking. Focus (Am Psychiatr Publ). 2025 Jan;23(1):25-32. doi: 10.1176/appi.focus.20240029. Epub 2025 Jan 15. PMID: 39776463; PMCID: PMC11701813.

• Chia, J.M.X., Choo, C.K.L., Vijayakumar, S. et al. Children’s Mental Health Distress and Barriers to Help-Seeking: Insights from the Tinkle Friend Chatline. Child Youth Care Forum 55, 565–587 (2026). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10566-025-09897-x

• Daskalska L, Nelson D, Smith J, Young S. Access to mental health care for Black and Latino teens with anxiety and depression: a qualitative study. Discov Ment Health. 2025 Apr 24;5(1):61. doi: 10.1007/s44192-025-00190-w. PMID: 40272643; PMCID: PMC12022193.

Special education depends on people. Teachers, paraprofessionals, school psychologists, speech-language pathologists, and other specialists each contribute to services for students with disabilities. When schools cannot fill these positions, the effects can reach far beyond an open job posting.

Staffing gaps can make it harder for schools to consistently provide the support outlined in students’ individualized education programs (IEPs).

Shortages Affect Multiple Specialties

Staffing problems are not limited to special education teachers. Schools may also struggle to recruit and retain related service providers, behavioral specialists, psychologists, and instructional aides.

The challenge can be particularly significant in rural districts and other areas with a limited pool of qualified professionals. Some specialties also require credentials that reduce the number of candidates who can immediately step into a vacant position.

Schools may respond by sharing specialists across buildings, using contracted professionals, or adopting telepractice for appropriate services. These approaches can fill specific gaps, but they still require scheduling, coordination, and oversight.

Higher Caseloads Change the School Day

An unfilled position redistributes work. A special education teacher may take responsibility for additional students. A psychologist may cover several schools. Paraprofessionals may be reassigned to classrooms with the most immediate needs.

As caseloads grow, professionals have less time for planning, documentation, collaboration, and individual student support. Meetings and evaluations still need to occur, and IEP goals still require attention.

Workload also includes communication with families and general education teachers. Those responsibilities can become harder to manage when staff members spend much of the day responding to immediate student needs.

Related Services Require Consistent Access

Some students receive speech-language therapy, physical therapy, counseling, or occupational therapy for schools as part of their special education programs. Vacancies in these roles can create scheduling difficulties, particularly when one provider serves students across several campuses.

Consistency matters because related services are connected to specific educational needs and IEP goals. Schools therefore need systems for tracking scheduled services, missed sessions, provider availability, and student progress.

Temporary staffing solutions should still allow professionals to communicate with teachers and families. A provider who sees a student briefly each week needs relevant information about how that student functions throughout the school day.

Staffing Is Also a Retention Issue

Recruitment alone cannot solve persistent vacancies. Districts also need to examine why employees leave. Large caseloads, limited planning time, and difficult working conditions can contribute to turnover. When experienced employees depart, schools also lose institutional knowledge.

Retention efforts can include mentoring for newer employees, manageable workloads, useful professional development, and scheduled collaboration time. Compensation matters, but day-to-day working conditions also influence whether professionals remain in their positions.

Schools Need Plans Before Vacancies Occur

Districts can prepare by monitoring vacancy trends, caseloads, retirement eligibility, certification pipelines, and hard-to-fill specialties. Partnerships with universities may help create student-teaching or clinical placement pipelines that introduce future professionals to the district.

Special education staffing gaps ultimately affect students most. Filling vacancies is important, but stable services also depend on manageable workloads, strong retention practices, accurate service tracking, and planning. Look over the infographic below for more information.

Most parents have stopped asking whether children should have screen time and started asking what kind. A tablet can hold a video feed that asks nothing of the child, or a puzzle that asks for everything. The device is the same. The ten minutes are not. Here is a way to tell the two apart and make the switch without a fight.

The difference is not the app. It is whether the screen ever waits for the child to think.

The question to ask about any ten minutes

The American Academy of Pediatrics no longer publishes a single daily limit for school-age children. Its current guidance, built around a family media plan, asks families to look at what the time is being used for and what it displaces, rather than to count minutes. That shift matters, because it moves the conversation from “how much” to “what kind,” and “what kind” is a question a parent can actually act on.

A useful test for any piece of screen time is to watch the child’s face for thirty seconds. Passive content produces a still face. Content that thinks back, that stops and waits for an answer, produces a working face: a frown, a lip bitten, eyes that leave the screen to look at the ceiling. The second kind of ten minutes is not the same as the first, and the difference is visible from across the room.

Why puzzles in particular

There is a reason to be careful with claims here. In 2016 a group of psychologists reviewed the evidence behind commercial “brain training” products and found that practice on a task mostly improves that task, with little sign that the gains transfer to school work or general intelligence. The review is worth reading before believing any app that promises a smarter child.

That is not an argument against puzzles. It is an argument for expecting the right thing from them. What a riddle or a logic puzzle reliably delivers is not a higher IQ but a different kind of ten minutes: sustained attention on a single question, tolerance for not knowing the answer yet, and the small, real pleasure of working something out. Those are habits, not scores, and habits are what a family media plan is trying to shape.

There is also the social difference. A video is watched alone even when two people are in the room. A puzzle read aloud is solved together. “What has a neck but no head?” is a question that pulls a sibling in from the doorway, and the arguing that follows is exactly the kind of talk that screens usually replace.

Making the switch without a battle

Replacing scrolling with puzzles fails when it is announced as a rule. It works when it is introduced as a ritual that happens to use the same device.

Attach it to a moment that already exists. The car ride, the wait at the restaurant, the ten minutes before bed. Do not create a new slot; occupy one that is currently going to autoplay.

Read the first one aloud yourself. A child who is handed a puzzle app is being given homework. A child who hears a parent say “okay, I don’t get this one” is being invited into a game.

Keep the answers hidden until asked for. The value is in the wait. A collection where the answer sits next to the question teaches skimming. One where it stays hidden until tapped teaches thinking. A set of brain teasers with answers written for children that hides each answer behind a tap is the right shape for this, because the child controls the reveal and the parent can read from the phone without spoiling it.

Let the child be the one who knows. Once a few puzzles are familiar, hand the phone over and let the child quiz the adults. Nothing builds the habit faster than being the one holding the answers.

Stop while it is still fun. Three or four puzzles, then the phone goes away. The ritual survives because it ends before anyone is tired of it.

What to watch for

Not every puzzle app is the thoughtful kind. Some are video feeds wearing a puzzle costume: a question flashes, a timer runs, an ad plays, the next question flashes. If the child never has to pause, it is not a puzzle break. It is scrolling with a score attached.

The signs of the good kind are simple. No timer, or a generous one. Answers hidden rather than displayed. No reward animations for speed. Nothing that plays on its own. Content sorted by age, so that a six-year-old is not handed vocabulary meant for a twelve-year-old and quietly concluding that puzzles are not for them.

Common Sense Media’s guidance on how much screen time is reasonable makes the same point from the other direction: the number matters less than whether the child is creating, connecting, or thinking during the time, or merely consuming.

The po much screen time is reasonableint is the ten minutes, not the device

Nobody needs to remove the tablet to change what happens on it. A family that swaps one autoplay session a day for a few riddles read aloud has not reduced screen time by a single minute, and has changed the quality of that time completely. The child is still looking at a screen. The screen is now looking back.

For kids who are used to tapping and swiping on tablets, a mechanical keyboard can feel unfamiliar at first. They suddenly need to find individual keys, coordinate their fingers and remember where each letter belongs without looking. That adjustment can take time, but with playful support, it can be an exciting journey.

With a little creativity, you can turn keyboard practice into something kids enjoy. Simple games, tactile activities and short routines can help them build confidence and develop stronger typing habits.

Why the Switch to a Keyboard Can Be Tricky

Using a tablet can feel easy for kids. They tap letters, swipe or use autocorrect to assist. But using a mechanical keyboard is different, requiring more deliberate and coordinated finger movements. Keyboards vary in size, layout and key movement, while a tablet’s screen has smaller, closely spaced keys.

These differences can disrupt students’ muscle memory, the repeated finger movements that help typing become more automatic. When this happens, kids may type more slowly, make mistakes or feel frustrated searching for keys.

1. Start With Exploration

Before students start typing words or sentences, you can let them get familiar with the keyboard. Give children keyboards and let them explore. Provide simple challenges, such as finding the letter C or identifying vowels. You can have students run their fingers along the rows of keys and notice how they feel.

You should also point out the small bumps on the F and J keys, which help them find the home-row position by touch instead of always looking down. Once kids know where to find the keys and how the keyboard feels under their fingertips, learning proper typing skills becomes much less intimidating.

You can also use this early exploration time to help kids build proper sitting habits while typing. Encourage kids to sit comfortably, shoulders relaxed and elbows close to their sides. Proper posture reduces muscle strain and improves spinal support.

2. Try Keyboard Hacks

Students need to build finger strength, coordination and muscle memory to use mechanical keyboards. Simple hands-on activities can help develop these skills. You can start with small, removable stickers on a few keys. Use one color for left-hand keys, another for right-hand keys and mark home-row keys with a bright color. These visual cues help students remember correct finger placement.

You can also have students make a paper keyboard and practice placing their fingers on the correct keys. Call out short words and have them type by pressing the matching paper keys, letting them practice movements without the pressure of using spring-loaded keys.

Additionally, students with special needs may find regular keyboards challenging. Small keys and complex layouts may be frustrating for them, so consider adaptive keyboards with larger, easier-to-press keys or color-coded layouts.

3. Turn Typing Into a Game

Quick typing games give kids a chance to try out the finger movements, find keys and build confidence without feeling like they’re doing another worksheet. In fact, in game-based learning, students show higher levels of retention, engagement and participation.

You can try these games:

• Keyboard treasure hunt: Call out a letter and have students search for it on their keyboards. Once found, they cover the key with a sticker or piece of paper. Have them start with familiar letters and gradually include numbers, punctuation and less common keys, like command keys.

• Finger detective: Choose a letter and ask, “Which finger should type this?” Students then point to the correct finger and press the key. This helps reinforce finger placement and keeps the lesson interactive.

• Word builder: Give students familiar words like cat, sun or house. Have them find each letter on their paper keyboard, then type the word on a real keyboard. This two-step activity connects letter recognition to typing.

4. Focus on Accuracy

A common mistake you can make when teaching beginners is emphasizing typing speed too soon. For a child who is still learning where the keys are, being asked to type quickly can create frustration. Instead, divide typing into smaller skills, such as learning the home row, practicing individual finger movements and typing short words. By sectioning complex skills into smaller, easier-to-remember components and providing ongoing feedback, students can make substantial progress in a short period.

5. Make Progress Visible

You can give your students a simple way to see their progress. Create a classroom keyboard challenge where students can check off skills as they learn them, such as typing their name, using both hands or keying a short sentence. You can do the same thing at home with a small checklist on the refrigerator or near the computer. Keep each goal simple and achievable, and celebrate progress along the way.

You should also remind students that mistakes are part of learning. Typing is a motor skill, so it’s completely normal for their fingers to feel awkward at first. Give them time to practice and celebrate small wins. These early successes at typing can free kids to think more clearly and create better texts.

Small Steps to Stronger Typing Skills

Use simple activities, tactile practice, quick games and short, consistent routines to make learning feel easier and more enjoyable. You can encourage kids to explore the keys, use proper finger placement and celebrate small improvements along the way. With patience, positive feedback and plenty of opportunities to practice, children can develop the skills they need to become comfortable, capable keyboard users.

Tessa Dodson is the Senior Writer at Classrooms.com and a former career coach dedicated to supporting teachers and students with practical and accessible educational resources.

When she’s not writing, you can find her diving into research or catching up with her latest read.